Breaking the Silence: Straight Talk about Miscarriages

Sarah Ritchie Dealing with Loss

In the last couple of months, two very high profile women (and their husbands) have made the heroic choice to publicly speak about the loss of a pregnancy.  Chrissy Teigen and John Legend as well as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have both reached out to traditional and social media outlets to describe the pain of losing a pregnancy.

Miscarriages (the loss of a pregnancy through the 20th week) remains quite common—with some estimating that 10 percent of early pregnancies are lost.  Yet the subject remains a hush-hush topic among many.    Some have estimated that up to a third of all women will experience a miscarriage during their childbearing years.  As one’s age increases, the likelihood of a miscarriage goes up, too.  With so many women delaying pregnancy, these days, it is an all too common experience.

A miscarriage often yields feelings of guilt, shame and isolation.  Experts reassure women that activities like exercising, working, or having sex will not precipitate a spontaneous abortion.  Rather, in most cases nothing could have been to prevent the loss of a pregnancy early on.

Experts suggest that not only is grieving normal, but that women may grieve longer than men.  Reaching out to a mental health professional or support group is a healthy, life-affirming choice.  Here are just a few organizations designed to support those dealing with the loss of a pregnancy:  Mothering Your Heart; Cribs For Kids; Heaven’s Gain Ministries; and Hello Hope.